早泄(Premature Ejaculation, PE)是男性最常见的性功能障碍之一。在新加坡,许多男性因面子或缺乏渠道而默默忍受。其实,通过科学验证的行为训练、安全药物和性心理疗法,绝大多数早泄都能显著改善甚至完全克服!立即行动,重获自信亲密体验。
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common male sexual dysfunctions. In Singapore, many suffer silently due to stigma or lack of access. Yet behavioral training, safe medication, and psychotherapy – all scientifically proven – can drastically improve or even resolve PE for most men! Act now to reclaim confident intimacy.
方法 1:核心行为疗法 —— 身体自我再训练 | Treatment 1: Core Behavioral Therapy – Retraining Your Body

无需药物、安全自主的基石疗法,需坚持练习4-8周见效。
Drug-free, safe, self-managed cornerstone. Requires consistent practice for 4-8 weeks.
1. “停-动法” (Start-Stop Technique)
- 目标 Goal: 提升感知射精临界点(point of inevitability)的能力,学会自主“刹车”。
- 操作 How (分阶段练习):
- 阶段1:自练习 Stage 1 – Solo Training:
- 自慰时集中精神感受兴奋积累过程。
- 当感觉接近(但未到)无法控制的射精点(约7-8分兴奋度),立即停止所有刺激(手停)。
- 深呼吸放松(深慢呼吸30秒),待兴奋感下降30-50%(约降至5分兴奋度)。
- 恢复刺激至接近临界点→再停止,重复3-5次后完成射精。
- Focus on arousal during masturbation.
- Near climax (intense urge, ~7-8/10 arousal)? STOP all stimulation.
- Relax with deep breathing (30s), wait until urge subsides (~5/10 arousal).
- Resume → Approach peak → Stop. Repeat 3-5 cycles before finishing.
- 阶段2:伴侣实战 Stage 2 – Partner Practice:
- 插入前告知伴侣此法需“暂停配合”(如说出“停”字/手势)。
- 性爱中感觉临界点临近,示意停止→伴侣立即不动→深呼吸放松→兴奋下降后继续动作。
- Communicate the need for “pause cooperation” (e.g., say “stop”/gesture).
- Near climax? Signal → Partner freezes → Deep breathe and relax.
- Resume after urge reduction (~30s).
- 阶段1:自练习 Stage 1 – Solo Training:
2. “挤压法” (Squeeze Technique) – 更强效“刹车”
- 操作 How:
- 当临界点来临时(自慰或性交中),立即停止动作。
- 用拇指按压龟头系带处(Frenulum),食指+中指从背侧紧捏冠状沟下缘(下图位置),持续3-5秒。
- 射精欲快速消退→休息15-30秒后继续。
- At peak urge (solo/sex), stop stimulation.
- Thumb under glans presses UP against frenulum + Index & middle fingers press DOWN on corona ridge for 3-5 seconds.
- Ejaculation urge fades → Rest 15-30s → Resume.
- 关键 Key:
- 位置精准度很重要:捏压位置参考上图(冠状沟下方一圈)。
- 与“停-动法”交替使用效果更佳。
- Pinch location accuracy is crucial: see diagram.
- Combine with Start-Stop for better results.
方法 2:安全药物治疗 —— 短期助力长效改善 | Treatment 2: Safe Medication – Short-Term Aid, Long-Term Gain
在新加坡需医生指导下使用!推荐两类经科学及新加坡卫生科学局(HSA)批准的药物。
Requires doctor consultation in Singapore! Two HSA-approved types recommended.
类型一:按需口服“延时药” – 达泊西汀 Dapoxetine
- 适用对象 Best For: 原发性早泄(终身性)或希望快速见效者;需提前1-3小时服用。
Lifelong PE; those seeking quick results; take 1-3 hours before sex. - 作用机制 How It Works: 快速吸收的选择性血清素再摄取抑制剂(SSRI),增强射精控制神经信号。
Fast-acting SSRI enhancing neural control over ejaculation. - 新加坡方案 Singapore Use:
- 公立医院/诊所处方药物(如Priligy品牌),不可直接药房购买。
Prescription only (e.g., Priligy). Not OTC. - 剂量 Dose: 初试30mg,医生评估后可增至60mg。
Start 30mg, doctor may increase to 60mg. - 时效 Effect: 延长射精潜伏期2-4倍,服用当天有效。
Ejaculation Delay: 2-4 fold increase; single-dose effect. - 注意 Note: 可能出现轻微恶心、头晕(约1小时内缓解)。有焦虑/抑郁病史者需告知医生。
Mild nausea/dizziness (resolves quickly). Inform doctor of mental health history.
- 公立医院/诊所处方药物(如Priligy品牌),不可直接药房购买。
类型二:低剂量抗抑郁药 – SSRIs (超说明书应用)
- 适用对象 Best For: 继发性早泄(后天出现)、伴有轻中度焦虑/抑郁者;需每日固定服用。
Acquired PE; those with mild-moderate anxiety/depression; daily dosing required. - 常用药 Common Drugs (新加坡注册药品):
- 帕罗西汀 Paroxetine (e.g., Seroxat) – 延时效果最佳
- 舍曲林 Sertraline (e.g., Zoloft)
- 氟西汀 Fluoxetine (e.g., Prozac)
- 医生监控要点 Doctor Supervision:
- 低剂量起始(如Paroxetine 10mg/天),2周后复诊评估效果及副作用。
Start low dose (e.g., Paroxetine 10mg/day), review biweekly. - 起效需2-4周,稳定后维持治疗3-6个月。
Full effect in 2-4 weeks; maintain 3-6 months. - 潜在副作用 Potential SEs: 初期嗜睡、口干、性欲略降(多数适应后减轻)。
Drowsiness, dry mouth, mild libido drop (often diminish over time). - 禁止自行用药! 需新加坡全科医生(GP)或专科(Urologist/Psychiatrist)处方与随访。
No self-medication! Requires GP/Urologist/Psychiatrist prescription & follow-up.
- 低剂量起始(如Paroxetine 10mg/天),2周后复诊评估效果及副作用。
方法 3:性心理与关系疗法 —— 解决根源压力 | Treatment 3: Psychosexual Therapy – Targeting Root Causes
适合长期慢性早泄、伴严重焦虑/关系冲突者。新加坡认证资源丰富。
Crucial for chronic PE with severe anxiety/relationship issues. Singapore has accredited support.
1. 认知行为疗法(CBT)-重塑健康性心理
- 解决什么问题 Targets:
- 过度关注“持久力”的表现焦虑
Obsessive performance anxiety - 对失败的灾难化联想(“我彻底完了”)
Catastrophic thinking (“I’m ruined”) - 因PE产生的自我贬低信念
Self-shaming beliefs linked to PE
- 过度关注“持久力”的表现焦虑
- 操作模式 How (通常6-12次咨询):
- 识别触发念头(如“她肯定嫌我快”)→ 挑战其真实性(事实?猜测?)
Identify trigger thoughts (“She must hate me”) → Challenge validity (Fact? Guess?) - 替换建设性信念(如“我们可以一起练习”)
Replace with constructive beliefs (“We can practice together”) - 学习焦虑管理技巧(放松训练、正念)
Learn anxiety management (relaxation, mindfulness)
- 识别触发念头(如“她肯定嫌我快”)→ 挑战其真实性(事实?猜测?)
2. 伴侣参与式性治疗(Couples Sex Therapy)-修复关系动力
- 关键策略 Key Strategies (双方参与):
- 去除“表现”压力: 前3-4次治疗禁止插入式性交,仅做感官抚触练习(sensate focus),重建身体信任。
Remove “performance” pressure: Ban intercourse for 3-4 sessions; focus on non-genital touching to rebuild trust. - 协作技巧练习: 在治疗师指导下共同练习“停-动/挤压法”,转为互助游戏。
Joint technique practice: Guided Start-Stop/Squeeze practice as mutual exploration. - 改善性沟通: 学习表达需求、给积极反馈(如“这样慢点我觉得更享受”)。
Better sexual communication: Practice expressing needs/giving positive feedback.
- 去除“表现”压力: 前3-4次治疗禁止插入式性交,仅做感官抚触练习(sensate focus),重建身体信任。
3. 新加坡专业资源指南 (Singapore Resources)
- 精神科门诊: 心理卫生学院(IMH)、国立大学医院(NUH)提供CBT及伴侣治疗
Psychiatry Clinics: IMH, NUH offer CBT & couples therapy - 认证性治疗师(Certified Sex Therapists):
- 新加坡性健康协会(SASSH)注册治疗师
Therapists registered under Singapore Association for Social Health (SASSH) - 部分私立诊所执业的AASECT国际认证治疗师
Private practitioners with AASECT certification
- 新加坡性健康协会(SASSH)注册治疗师
- 如何预约: 先看全科医生(GP)获取转介信;或直接联系SASSH官网查询。
Access: Obtain referral from GP; or contact SASSH directly.
治疗策略优化建议: 新加坡男性如何选择? | Strategy Guide: Which Treatment Suits You?
早泄情况 | 首选方案 | 次选/组合方案 | 新加坡渠道 |
---|---|---|---|
偶尔发生、轻中度 | 行为疗法 (停-动法 + 挤压法) | 延时安全套 (Durex Performax等) | 自修练习 + Guardian/Watsons购安全套 |
Occasional/Mild PE | Behavioral Training | Delay Condoms | Self-practice + OTC condoms |
长期中重度、急求效 | 口服达泊西汀 (Dapoxetine) | +行为疗法 | 公立诊所/医院医生开处方 |
Chronic/Severe, Fast Results | On-demand Dapoxetine | + Behavioral Training | Prescription from polyclinic/hospital |
伴焦虑或关系紧张 | 性心理疗法 (CBT/伴侣治疗) | +低剂量每日SSRIs | SASSH治疗师或IMH/NUH专科 |
With Anxiety/Conflict | Psychosexual Therapy | + Daily SSRIs | SASSH therapist or IMH/NUH specialist |
反复失败、不明原因 | 全面联合治疗: 行为 + 药物 + 心理 | 需医学排查 (激素/前列腺检查) | 新加坡泌尿科专科医生 (如Mt E医院/SGH) |
Complex/Unresponsive | Combined Therapy | + Medical screening | Private/Public Urologist (e.g., Mt E, SGH) |
重要提醒:新加坡治疗须知 (Key Reminders for Singapore)
- 勿信“偏方神药”: 网购不明草药/喷剂风险高(含非法麻药或激素),可能伤身。
Avoid “Miracle Cures”: Online herbs/sprays often contain hidden drugs/hormones – high risk! - HSA认证是底线: 药品/医疗器械务必选新加坡卫生科学局注册产品(包装有HSA Logo)。
HSA Approval Essential: Verify medical products carry HSA registration logo. - 积极持续才有效: 行为和心理治疗需坚持4次以上;药物需遵疗程。
Consistency is Key: Commit to ≥4 therapy sessions; complete medication course. - 伴侣支持倍增疗效: 诚邀伴侣参与治疗(尤其心理和沟通技巧),避免指责。
Partner Support Multiplies Success: Invite partner into therapy (especially communication skills) – no blaming!
结语:早泄在新加坡完全可治!
PE is Highly Treatable in Singapore!
无论选择自主训练、合理用药还是专业辅导,核心是 科学认知+立即行动+善用本地资源。早泄非“男耻”,而是可管理的常见状况。摆脱羞耻感,迈向掌控力——你的自信性福,值得主动争取!
Whether through self-training, safe medication, or expert therapy, success hinges on scientific understanding + prompt action + utilizing local support. PE is not shameful, but a manageable condition. Shed stigma, regain control – your confident intimacy is worth fighting for!